Break up feelings and emotions

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Breakups are emotional roller coasters. Breakups are are more like being under a roller coaster. Before we knew the science we knew the feeling, and used words associated with physical pain — hurt, pain, ache — are used describe the pain of a relationship breakup. Now we know why. The emotional pain of a breakup and physical pain have something in common — they both activate the same part of the brain.

Brain scans of people recently out of a relationship have revealed that social pain the emotional pain from a breakup or rejection and physical pain share the same neural pathways. In one study40 people who had recently been through an unwanted breakup had their brains scanned while they looked at pictures of their exes and thought about the breakup. As they stared at the photos, the part of the brain associated with physical pain lit up. In further support of the overlap between physical and social pain, Tylenol an over the counter medication for physical pain has been shown to reduce emotional hurt.

Research has found that people who took Tylenol an over-the-counter medication for physical pain for three weeks reported less hurt feelings and social pain on a daily basis than those who took a placebo.

The effect was also evident in brain scans. Those who took Tylenol showed ificantly less activity in that part of the brain. Nobody is suggesting that the broken hearted turn to pain medication to reduce their lean towards Kleenex, Baskin-Robbins and repeated viewings of Love Actually. Long term use will cane the liver. Somebody else is waiting to fall in love with you, but you and your liver have to stay friends forever. The human brain loves love. Being in love takes the lid off the happy hormones, dopamine and oxytocin, and the brain bathes in the bliss.

Break up feelings and emotions

But when the one you love leaves, the supply of feel good hormones takes a dive and the brain releases stress hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine. In small doses, stress hormones are heroic, ensuring we respond quickly and effectively to threat. However in times of long-term distress such as a broken heart, the stress hormones accumulate and cause trouble. Muscles swell, giving rise to headaches, a stiff neck and that awful feeling of your chest being squeezed.

This can cause tummy trouble such as cramps, diarrhea or appetite loss. This might cause sleep problems and interfere with the capacity to make sound judgements. Like any addiction, this will pass. In a relationship, your mind, your body and the core of you adjust to being intimately connected someone. When that someone leaves, the brain has to readjust. The pain can be relentless but eventually the body chemistry will change back to normal and the hurt will diminish. Getting through a breakup is as much a physical process as an emotional one.

Remember that, and know that it will get easier.

Break up feelings and emotions

Keep going. It was about a month since me and my girlfriend decided to go different paths. I really loved her and I guess she felt the same, but it does not matter anymore.

Break up feelings and emotions

We had so different needs and the mental illness just tore us apart. I do not know why but we never spoke about our future, no further plans or stuff. I was just so attached to her and grateful for her being by my side. I have never met anyone like her before, she were my best friend and partner. She told me that this decision is for our own good and well I belive her, but since she left me I can not control myself from feeling constant stress and anxiety.

My heart only rest when I am thinking about her and when I force myself to stop it gets hard. What can I do? This stress can not be good for my system and health…. I have a daughter with my ex we was together for about 5 years she sent me a message via whatsapp and left my life about 7 months ago.

I can still see my daughter. The anxiety and panic attacks are out of this world and I dont feel like the world is real. My girlfriend and I were best friends for two years and we were in a relationship for 10 months. We both loved eachother a lot, go to the same college, live in the same dorm, and go to the same Church. We had a lot of fond and fun memories, had both of our first kiss and first love together although we had been in other relationships before.

We both had a true connection. I have been told by her and other girls that I am very good looking, so attraction was definitely there. However I also treated her well, I would hold her when she cried or was cold, I would always pick her up, and I was always giving my time to her and making sure she knew she was my priority. She also came from a very strict Baptist family where all the members get married young, like 19 or We both worked out good together and I told her I would marry her after college and she wanted that as well.

It was very shocking because the reason I was willing to marry young was for her, and she was crying, but I had a breakdown where I cried a lot, and tried to make the relationship work, and I even begged her to stay.

My sister was there and said I acted like a big baby, but a lot of people included her friends say that is normal in a break up. My girlfriend however blamed me in the end for my reaction and said she knew why her spirit was troubled and said to please not text her again. Her Ex best girlfriend when she told her she broke up with me because her spirit was troubled actually defended me and stuck by me. She told me I did nothing wrong, and so did one of the girls that is still friends with her. One says to never take her back, and another says maybe on a rainy day you all will reconnect again.

Also in the relationship we pursued God, stayed abstinent, did Bible studies, and went to Church together as well as talk about our beliefs. I feel confused, lost and sick… my soul aches. I fell in love. I fell in love with a friend. I had never been ready for love. We stayed friends. I should have left if I had the littlest of respect for my heart but I stayed. Because I wanted to be with him, even if we were just friends. Friends in love.

Then he left. Why does it hurt so much… we only knew each other for a little over two months. You can talk to good people around you. Just see do you want this life where you are not happy or positive. Trust me this a process and you are going to get over him. There are over 8 billion people in this whole world and someone out there is waiting to love you.

Still if you want to talk you can talk to me. There is no pain that lts forever, what you feel is part of this process of growing, two months is minimum comparing with the amount of many months of happiness you will experience with someone that truly loves you no matter what. Keep up and be kind with yourself, that pain will go over for sure! He treats me like absolute gold and I love him for being him and for everything he does. Towards the end our sex stopped happening and it got more and more rough until I said we needed to end things. Shortly after that I slept with someone and it made me feel terrible that I did so, so quickly.

I was not interested in another relationship. But one thing led to another and I caught feelings and once telling him he told me he felt exactly the same. Although for some reason I still wanted a connection with my ex, he was always in the back of my mind. I wanted to be friends with him. Things got messy I tried having that friendship but the other guy I was talking to could not handle it.

Our feelings had grown to strong and jealousy began forming. We were getting jealous about things one another would do and we were fighting. I did stop talking to my ex for him for about a week because I noticed it was hurting him that I did so and seeing him so down was hurting me. That week he was so happy but I was not, I wanted to make a friendship work with my ex, I missed him in my life.

One day something snapped in me and I realized I need to start doing things for me to make myself happy instead of always trying to be the people pleaser. So I hung out with my ex and once I told this other guy things blew up and he told me I had to choose between them. But I also think I may still be in love with my ex. My ex and I talked, I told him I had been sleeping with this other guy shortly after we ended. But, still has strong feelings for me and wants to get back together. He is muslim, I am catholic, we kinda had a secret relationship but not.

He has always said due to his religion he would need to get married the Right way, the Islamic way, this is when he spoke to an imam a leader of a mosque and Muslim community who approves marriage.

Break up feelings and emotions

I understood this was very important to him and I felt happy about it. I thought he was the one, but we want different things, I planned so much with this man. Oh my gosh. That was hurtful to read. I am an ex-Muslim.

Read about Islam and apostasy. Maybe you should get him to leave Islam so you can just be a couple like everyone else. Islam forces people to get married. I pray for your wellbeing. Hello, I have this same situation and it fcking suckss so much. I understand each and every word that you wrote. How long does it hurt for? Its because you allowed your pain to be alive.

Break up feelings and emotions

Our brain keeps reminding us because of the comfort that person provided — everything is replaceable if we wish too. My girlfriend and I broke up officially a little more than a month ago now. That was hard. I lost some of my passion for the relationship. She was the same beautiful person I remembered but something was just off. I wanted to give her an answer but should have taken more time to process. This ended is us taking a break. As time moved forward we both realized it was time to go back home. We were planned a road trip across the country that my girlfriend wanted to do.

I was planning it for her cause I knew how badly she wanted to do it and I had been looking forward to it also. Had my share of concerns and worries about it but I was able to set that aside because I wanted this trip to help of relationship. So one thing led to another, I was in SoCal with my family and she was up North.

I was still being a little distant over the phone cause I was dealing with some family stuff. A few months later I found myself back in the same city as her so we reconnected.

Break up feelings and emotions

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