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Whether your divorce was messy or clean-cut and easy, it can be a little scary stepping into a second marriage. This can be especially true when there are children involved in the second marriage. But getting married for a second time shouldn't be something to fear, but it is something that should be nurtured by the both of you.
Here are some tips on how to have a successful second marriage when children are involved. When you are heading into a second marriage where there are children involved, you are going to not only have a new spouse but children whom you will get to know. This also means that you will likely have exes that you will need to talk to, not to mention, unsolicited advice from well-meaning friends. It all may seem a bit daunting in the beginning, but the best thing that you can do is to keep a level head amongst all of this.
It may all seem a little scary at first, and that is an okay emotion to feel. But just do not let it overtake you. Lean on your new spouse for support if you need to.
That is what they are there for, to love, nurture, and help you when you need it the most. Even though you are now married to your spouse, you still need to continue to work on your relationship, as it is ever-evolving. Date nights should not be negotiable, according to Marriage. We couldn't agree more, dates are integral to keeping a relationship and that spark alive.
Date nights even help spouses learn new things about each other that they didn't know before! On the same wavelength, one thing that you also want to do as well is to work on your relationship with the children of the family.
The best way to do this is to find out their interests and spend time with them doing what they like to do. You can even ask questions and get to know them better this way. The children may feel as though they are being thrown into a brand new situation, and you have to take that into consideration. But you should also persevere in trying to bond with them and forming a good relationship with them. You and your new partner need to sit down with the children and lay down ground rules for the home that you are living in.
Even though it may seem chaotic right now, once things die down a little bit, you will be glad that you have ground rules in place. You and your partner are creating a new home, meaning it is not the same home that either of you has lived before. So, sitting down and talking about rules that the kids should follow are a great idea. Rules shouldn't be too restrictive, and they should allow for some leniency.
However, when breaks a rule, you two together need to decide how to deal with it. After ground rules have been set, it is a good idea to have a family meeting and sit down and explain them to the children. They may not be happy about them in the beginning, but they will come around to them.
If there is one piece of advice that could be imparted to everyone is that communication is key to everything. This is especially true when it comes to a second marriage. You need to be able to communicate not only with your partner, according to Bonobologybut you also need to be able to communicate with the children as well. Be open and honest with them about how you feel and always ask them how they are feeling as well. You will feel so much better when you talk to your partner about what is bothering you.
If you carry around baggage from your first marriageyou need to speak to your partner about it so they can talk to you about it and make you feel better. Trust is another issue that you have learn to build up again. Remember that your new partner is not your former partner. Even though it is pretty common according to Woman's Daytry not to compare your current spouse to your former one. It is something that is avoidable. If you feel yourself getting upset and wanting to say something that compares the two, take a mental step back in your mind, take a breath, and reframe your thought in such a way that it is not comparing the two.
Sources: Woman's DayMarriage. The challenge involves a student calmly walking up to their teachers, slapping them, and then running away. Jennifer is a contributing writer for Moms. She is a stay-at-home mom, writer, and blogger. She has written two books on how to deal with living with chronic illness using the power of positivity. She is also an advocate for maternal mental health and frequently writes about the topic. Credit: Crello.
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