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Before I get into the details of a push-pull technique what I call the fishing techniqueI would like to say that I am personally not an advocate of this method. This can either work with someone you just started to date, your partner or an ex. The push-pull technique works like fishing. Essentially what ends up happening with the push-pull technique is that you become the mastermind and direct how the course of the relationship with the targeted person will unfold.
For example, you are talking to a girl and you notice she becomes unsure or aloof and she distances herself from you due to whatever reason. Since you are desperate, you come across the push-pull technique and you start applying it of course, at your own risk. Manipulating someone into being attracted to you is wrong on many levels. When two people are in contact, they have the desire to connect and feel validated. This dates back far back in history and evolution of human beings. People are still strongly dependent on one another for many reasons. Bonding with another person releases chemicals throughout the brain, leaving us wanting more.
Without thinking too much about it, the brain wants what gives us pleasure and avoids everything that causes us pain. Before using this technique give the person you are trying to attract the best attraction experience no other living person can.
Tell them how important they are in your life and how you wish you could stay friends forever. In this way, you pump them up with the impression of unconditional friendship, loyalty, devotion…. When you have accomplished the goal of making them attracted to you enough, let them go cold turkey by disappearing and acting distant.
By now, that person thinks you are a really great person for sticking around. They consciously or subconsciously think they play an important role in your life for which they give themselves credit for. This person appreciates you sharing your vulnerability with them and they, as a result, begin to open themselves up.
As you start using this push-pull technique, the power in your relationship will shift over to you. They will become dependent on your validation and appreciation of their presence. You are now the mastermind and have complete control of your situation. Since you are willing to go to the means of manipulation, I urge you to find out how to become the best version of yourself.
Let me know what you think about this push-pull technique. Did it make sense? Have you done it before to someone without thinking about it?
Share your thoughts below. I have had the woman purposefully do what people have told them. So long story short: I recently met this woman, got hertook her out and it got physical REAL quick. I was a total gentlemen the entire night and treated her like a queen. I was honest with my intentions and I was transparent as not to hurt her or lead her on God forbid. She responded by getting very physical with me. I think it can be used with some modifications in order to empower oneself and without the goal of manipulating somebody. Let me explain… I had a crush.
He seemed to be interested and sent me mixed als. Most of them the kind a woman thinks he is pretty interested but something is holding him back. So ok. I got excited and did what was possible to show him I was intested too and that he had a green light to go on. Suddenly things cool off from his side. So after he cold feeted I began to ignore him.
I focused on my workouts it was at the gym and watched movies while doing them with headphones on and not even looking to the sides. I looked totally inmersed in my music or videos. To my surprise he started coming back to have small talks, he stared at me I saw him in the mirrorshe try to lock our eyes every time he could… Just as when things were hot between us. I guess he missed the flirting we used to have. I got that. It felt amazing. So what I did without knowing I was doing this push pull technique was ignore him most of the time, then sometimes I responded kindly but inmediately went on to my business looking uninterested on him again, which was totally different than before.
So it was my idea to Ignore him to just forget about him.
Remember that he started ignoring me first. However, without me knowing this I was playing push and pull. Other times I would ignore him for days without even lifting my eyes from the phone to say hi, even when he was next to me.
Other days I would say hi with a big smile and engaged in brief conversations and then cut off and leave. I noticed that he bit the hook. I did it to try to get rid of the silent flirtatious game we had that was leading to nowhere and was hurting me, and in which I was the beta because I clearly showed open interest on him.
I felt stupid and I wanted to regain my dignity. What happened? Well, he was obviously very puzzled. He tried to keep orbitating for a while. And so we both pretended and pretended until we finally gave up and accepted the game of flirting had to stop and we have to move forward. Now we say hello without any further hidden feelings he is fine and I am fine. Two people who just say hello and sometimes talk. The reason why I wanted all to stop?
He is married. I am married. I appreciate that. The push pull technique helped to feel empowered, in control, strong, and got away the needy puppy image I believed I portrayed. It can be used for good porpuses too! Use it if you need it but never to manipulate! My ex is doing the same thing. When we see each other in person. Our chemistry and sexual tension between is super strong. She kept saying nostalgic memories and saying I still love you and care for you.
She still keeps me tabs on social media and is the first people to view my stuff. But when I text her after to establish a meetup. Either excuses or no responses. I also recently found out she has been seeing some guy on and off now since December on the side. Or is the technique being applied now?
Mind you this girl is in her senior year at the university. I also recently unfollowed her on Snapchat. This is exactly what my ex did, hence my comment on the article about blocking someone on social media. I had to do it to get away from the emotional manipulation. I got so used to the hot and cold treatment that I started to think this was normal and I had to change my behaviour, i. No more and never again! It really suvks to be on the other end of this technique. The whole male-female dynamic is built of games like this, and it is mostly women that feel the need to play them, dont hate it when men have to play along.
Any advice you have for me on how to maintain this attraction??? Thank you so much -Dave- Reply. Do people do it unconsciously? I feel like my ex did that to me when we were together. Mostly women applying it, wg? Absolutely, Amanda. Kind regards, Zan Reply.
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